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Questions & Answers

charlotte dujardin & laura bechtolsheimer london 2012


This is the page to answer your questions on training or improving your performance- send in a contact form and your question will be shown here with my response

Q; Are Nerves always a bad thing? T. Bucks

A; No, you need to learn to Decode your nerves. Learn to recognise when you are feeling nervous in a good way- excited and eager, compared with edgy and nervous in a negative way- anxious and afraid. The former can give you the adrenaline and sharpness you need to perform at your best. However, the latter will work against you. Always give yourself time and breathing space- use your brain to protect your emotions- work out what is causing the fear and anxiety and use techniques or obtain professional help to overcome theseissues.

Q; I struggle to learn my dressage tests – how can I improve this? D. Herts

A; It depends on how you learn best- you need to work out whether you learn through listening, watching/reading, listening & reading and then drawing the test yourself or by walking through the test, say using a rug as the arena. If you learn through listening then try the audio download tests several times while you ride your horse and then re-ride imagining the voice in your head . If you learn through reading then read through the test several times (either in diagrammatic form or the plain text) using visualisation to imagine what it will look like from horseback and eventually close your eyes and recall the visualization to see yourself riding the test in real time. If you need to process the information then use a combination of the audio and visual cues available then translate them into the form that works best for you- repeat it back or draw the diagrams yourself. Finally if you learn best by experiencing it then use any of the cues available but repeat the experience of riding the test in whichever format you can, on the horse, around an arena on foot, eyes closed in bed or wherever you can but visualizing exactly what you need to do to achieve each movement

Q; My horse has a Parrot Mouth (his top teeth overshoot his lower teeth- are there any special considerations regarding bitting? D Suffolk

A; Often a horse with a parrot mouth has a low roof and will therefore prefer a thinner bit. He may also prefer a French link or flat plated double jointed bit so that the single joint does not become uncomfortable into the roof. The noseband may be the more important area to consider as he could be more uncomfortable in a drop or flash noseband. In addition you may find your horse needs more regular dental care from a specialist veterinarian or horse dentist.

Q; Can you clarify what the judge is looking for in the Give & Retake movement in the canter in dressage tests please . S. Surrey

A;The judge wants to see that the contact is released for 1-2 strides and that the horse remains in the same outline and balance. This is different to the stretch on the long rein where the horse should follow the contact down. If you think that you are doing it correctly but the judge does not agree then get a video of yourself doing it- there has to be a clear release of the contact so lifitng the hands up the mane line doesn't work- the hands should go directly forwards for a count of “1and 2" and then bring back the hands. The horse should stay in the same outline and balance throughout the movement- watch your video to see if you can see what the judge is seeing. (look out for the Archive Article on the 2 exercises of Giving & Retaking the rein and Letting the horse stretch which will be republished in shortly)

  Louise Clark with Feiner Pino courtesy of Susan Young images


Richard Bandler (NLP founder) quotes

Quality of Life "Don't ever be too busy to be alive"

Belief Systems What you don't believe in is as important as what you do."

(From Conversations with Richard Bandler by Owen Fitzpatrick and Richard Bandler)

Staying focused "There is delight at the end of the tunnel."

Planning "Most people plan by disaster. They think of what can go wrong and then they master it."

(From Conversations with Richard Bandler by Owen Fitzpatrick and Richard Bandler)

Happiness "You can't just be happy, but you can learn to do things happily. Living happily entails paying attention to and enjoying the process of doing whatever it is you happen to be doing."

(From Make Your Life Great, Richard Bandler's Guide To Trance-Formation)

The Meaning of LifeSimply put, the meaning of life is the meaning you ascribe to it. What you believe is what you'll see, hear and feel; therefore it makes sense to pay special attention to the beliefs you hold.

(From The Secrets of Being Happy, by Richard Bandler)

Nominalisation "...When people come in and say, "I have a fear of failure." I respond by saying, "Please put it in the top drawer and take out one of the other things."

Falling In Love "Do you want to know a good way to fall in love? Just associate with all your pleasant experiences with someone, and disassociate from all the unpleasant ones." Richard Bandler

Making The Most of Life "In life you are given a bag of moments. You don't know how many of those moments you have. My courses are about learning how to maximize those moments."

(Richard Bandler in one of NLP Life's seminars)

Change "Another approach to change is to examine the things that you believe about yourself, which you wish you didn't. These beliefs also can serve you..."

Richard Bandler

Fear "Fear itself is not a bad thing. With a lot of people, I scare them by switching their point of view in time. I think into the future to examine their own lives down the road and I have them look back at the stuff they didn't do... and I ask them how wasteful that is."

(From Conversations with Richard Bandler by Owen Fitzpatrick and Richard Bandler)

Craving "Why would you want to diminish your enjoyment of, or your pleasure and attraction to chocolate? We'll wait here for a few minutes... for you to figure out a good reason!"

(From a transcript of Richard helping someone with a CHOCOLATE craving in Magic In Action)

Success "Successful people in all fields... are all driven... I'm not talking about driven in the way Type A personalities are, but driven with curiosity. They are driven to do what they do better each time."

The Meaning of Life "Simply put, the meaning of life is the meaning you ascribe to it. What you believe is what you'll see, hear and feel; therefore it makes sense to pay special attention to the beliefs you hold."

(From The Secrets of Being Happy)

Phobias "You are born with only two fears : fear of falling and fear of loud noise. All the rest is learned. And it's a lot of work!"

Enjoying Life "If you can't enjoy what you have, you can't enjoy more of it." Richard Bandler

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